Motherhood is more often than not talked about in terms of what you give or give up. Each Mother’s Day there’s someone (normally someone trying to sell you something) telling us how much money a mother should earn or how hard their job is. I don’t see it like that.
I’ve never thought of being parent as a transaction any more than I think about how lucky I am someone’s not charging me for all of this air I’m breathing.
For me, motherhood was like the bursting of a dam. It released me from the restraints of limiting beliefs and allowed me to step outside of what was expected of me. Becoming a mother rubbed away the parts of me that gave a fuck and without them I could start to imagine a world in which I wanted to live.
And with the breaking of the dam came the flood of creativity. Writing, photography and making unfurled within me and all of the things I had been advised not to pursue returned me to centre.
At the moment when I felt like I was pouring my whole self into creating other people I also opened like a flower. I found myself and my direction.
No, motherhood is not a transaction. Motherhood is a mutual gift; one which births and renews. It’s with gratitude that I accept this gift and everything that comes with it.
Happy Mother’s Day friends. Sending love to all of you who are celebrating and remembering today.