If You Couldn’t Fail…

If you couldn't fail what would you do

What stops you from putting your dreams into action?

There are so many instances when I’ve spoken to people with amazing ideas and ambitions which they are simply not acting upon. They have the ideas, enthusiasm but none of the drive to take them out of their minds and create something solid.

I myself have found the same stumbling block. I had been wanting to teach classes online for three years before I had the gumption to launch Capturing Childhood with Kat last year. Three years. Three years of thinking, planning, talking and dreaming but very little doing.

So what was stopping me? Or more importantly, what finally pushed me to take a leap?

It was being in a situation where I felt I had nothing left to lose. I was in the position of near desperation and when all of the easy options were unavailable the only place to turn was my dreams. So I took the plunge.

In short: I couldn’t fail.

It took me until my family and home were in jeopardy to make the leap I had been dreaming of. The fear of failing which I had allowed to hold me prisoner in my own mind was suddenly gone. I was no longer worried about anything but taking our awesome courses out into the world for people to enjoy.

You know the rest of that story; I am so proud of what we have achieved and how our students have responded to our classes and workshops.

This idea has been on my mind a lot in recent weeks. I was working with a incredibly talented woman recently and talking about what she was going to do when launching her freelance career. I made a suggestion and she replied, “Am I allowed to do that?” a statement which surprised both of us. Was she waiting for permission to go ahead and use her talents?

With the realisation that she could indeed do what she wanted, no permission required, she went out and told people what she had on offer. Want to know something? No one laughed her out of town; they said yes.

If you couldn’t fail, what would you do?

Are those dreams locked in our heads because we’re afraid of failing? Is it some deep-seated idea that we are somehow not worthy of achieving our ambitions? What is really stopping us from taking that first step towards a new venture?

If there were no chance of failing,  what would you be doing? What is it you are dreaming of? What is standing in your way? Is there anything more than your own fear? Is the barrier real or imagined? Do you need permission?

Ask yourself the question: If I couldn’t fail, what would I do? Then take a deep breath and go do it.

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  • Reply Rachael June 25, 2013 at 10:11 pm

    You know what, I am so locked up in this that I don’t even want to think about the question! How crazy is that?
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  • Reply Carie June 26, 2013 at 12:04 am

    I’m lucky that I enjoy my job so I don’t have burning desires to throw it all in just yet, but I do want to improve my writing, my photography and my knitting designs all of which can only get better with more practice, so that’s what I’m doing. It’s small scale I know, but small is a good starting point and who knows where it could lead.

    My husband on the other hand is dreaming big – he’d go for some sort of national project to make everyone more creative, because that can only be a good thing!

  • Reply jane June 26, 2013 at 8:55 am

    *starts penning novel*
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  • Reply Lianne June 26, 2013 at 10:22 am

    Oh Kat, what a nice post. I always love your posts, they are so heartfelt, honest, open, stimulating.
    I have been in that position many times, and I even have forced myself into that position many times. Whether it is with starting a new career, learning a new skill, trying to make a dream reality, moving to a different country, learning a new language. What often helps me to make a step is to realise it is actually ok if you fail trying to achieve or learn something and hey, it might work too! Either way you will definitely learn a lot on your way, and you might discover a new talent or something that suits you better. So all in all a win win situation. I believe it really doesn’t matter if you fail or succeed with whatever you are trying to do, both are better then feeling unhappy, stuck in dreams, or feeling terrified of failure…remember your parents saying to you after you lost a running race in school: “it doesn’t matter, darling, you did your best and you had fun. If you really want this, we can practise and who knows, next time you might win”? That is my mantra, some people say it is a little naive, but it often works for me. And yes, I agree, if you really want something, think about it, take a deep breath and go do it. And remember: learning how to walk as a baby didn’t happen in one day or without bumping your head and bottom a zillion times either…
    I love everything you do, try, stand for, write about, Kat…keep dreaming and doing!

  • Reply Kelly June 26, 2013 at 12:15 pm

    This post has been niggling at the back of my mind since it dropped into my inbox. Definitely food for thought.

  • Reply victoria (mrs_scruff) June 26, 2013 at 1:07 pm

    Too frustrating for words.

  • Reply Jeanette June 26, 2013 at 5:12 pm

    woah! The answer to that is quite terrifying, and complex and I truly hope I can figure it out sometime. x
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  • Reply Truly Myrtle June 29, 2013 at 10:33 am

    Goosebumps. You’re so right.
    Just. Have. To. Start.

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  • Reply Alexis July 4, 2013 at 2:40 pm

    A couple of days ago I said to my partner that I think he’d have to lose his job for me to actually get out and make my project that I’ve been thinking about for a while happen. I really hope he doesn’t loose his job… but I also don’t know how to motivate myself to just go and do it!
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  • Reply LydiaGrace July 14, 2013 at 12:04 pm

    This is so inspiring to me as a new blogger, as is your whole blog!

    I want to be a housewife too, so it’s lovely to read of one in England, where it’s still not considered the norm. It’s refreshing to read that you’re a feminist housewife, proving that girl power is about choice.

    I can’t wait to read more!
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