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Motherhood and the Awakening of Creativity

Kat Molesworth

Motherhood is more often than not talked about in terms of what you give or give up. Each Mother’s Day there’s someone (normally someone trying to sell you something) telling us how much money a mother should earn or how hard their job is. I don’t see it like that.

I’ve never thought of being  parent as a transaction any more than I think about how lucky I am someone’s not charging me for all of this air I’m breathing.

For me, motherhood was like the bursting of a dam. It released me from the restraints of limiting beliefs and allowed me to step outside of what was expected of me. Becoming a mother rubbed away the parts of me that gave a fuck and without them I could start to imagine a world in which I wanted to live.

And with the breaking of the dam came the flood of creativity. Writing, photography and making unfurled within me and all of the things I had been advised not to pursue returned me to centre.

At the moment when I felt like I was pouring my whole self into creating other people I also opened like a flower. I found myself and my direction.

No, motherhood is not a transaction. Motherhood is a mutual gift; one which births and renews. It’s with gratitude that I accept this gift and everything that comes with it.

Happy Mother’s Day friends. Sending love to all of you who are celebrating and remembering today.

Working and the School Holidays

Housewife Confidential-2

Is it possible to find a balance between work and caring for your children during the holidays?

Up until last year my work fit in well with the children. There was the odd morning of writing while they played but on the whole my schedule could flex around them.

Last year of course I jumped in at the deep end by founding and launching a company over the summer. It was an incredibly difficult time to launch a new venture and if it weren’t for amazing friends and our home-working set up it would have been a mountain to climb. Not to mention being incredibly boring for the children.

Housewife Confidential

We have done a few more holidays since then and with no childcare options viable for us we are learning the balance. I admire the stoic acceptance of my need to work and the wonderful way they entertain themselves throughout the day. I’m not going to pretend that it doesn’t come with a sinking feeling of guilt though.

There are so many moments that I wish I could be heading out for the day every day especially when the progress I’m making with my work day to day is  s l o w. I may be ‘working’ but without uninterrupted head time, my productivity is way down and let’s not mention my inbox.

Despite my deep feelings of guilt we have built a happy rhythm since last year which keeps me from the depths of despair.

In stark contrast to last year; the children now play quite contentedly for hours. Their imagination for play, creation and exploration leads them into shared and individual games which have them absorbed completely.

We also plan small trips out each day. Sometimes we may only make it as far as the park but we get out and away from the computer. It’s clear from the attention they pay me and the pile of them frequently in my lap that they are craving more of my time.

As well as making space for daily adventures we are also investing quality time in our weekends. Last weekend we went to Winchester Science Festival (crazy awesome), this weekend we’re off to visit friends on the Isle of Wight and we also have Just So Festival booked in. I’m hoping there will be a trip to Giffords Circus, some camping and beach days to come.

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Is this a solution to the competing demands of work and the school holidays? Am I doing neither job well? I don’t know and only time will reveal the answer. I would love to know how you manage the juggle.

Plus Size Fashion and My Personal Style

Buying Cool Plus Size Fashion


I both love and hate clothes. I don’t know if there was ever a time when shopping for clothes wasn’t a burning shameful reminder that I and my body were other.

I am differently shaped to many people but frankly, I am not alone and it constantly baffles me that capitalists hate fat people so much that they would rather not have our money than have us wear their clothes. The impact of this rejection is that I have such a small selection of clothes to choose from when expressing myself.

So clothes shopping for me is hard work. I feel like I have to look three times as hard to find something which suits my style and I am constantly making compromises. A lot of people ask me where I shop and as I know the pain of searching for clothes you like I wanted to share a few of my current go-to places.

Where to Buy Plus Size Clothing in the UK


Lady Bird Likes Butterfly Necklace

Boden: I spend way too much money with Boden (and always right before a bigger discount comes along, not cool Johnnie) I don’t regret a penny though as I am incredibly comfortable in their dresses and cardigans.

I find I need to be careful with what I buy, always a stretch fabric and long length. Dresses, tees, cardigans and jumpers all work well. Trousers and skirts never seem to and tops are a bit hit and miss. Big love for Boden – without them I would have been in a tight spot for clothes the last couple of years.

Monsoon: I have been a Monsoon fan for years. There was a time when most of my wardrobe came from their racks. I haven’t found much for me in there for ages then recently I stopped in to find a wedding outfit and hit upon the striped dress I’m wearing in the top image. I love that dress so much even if I do seem to get pit stains in it (no idea why and don’t much care!)

The green cardigan I have on in these pictures is from Monsoon too and I look forward to wearing it each Spring, it has a three quarter bell sleeve which is so gorgeous. I have lots of their clothes which have lasted years which when you wear through clothes like I do is a major plus.

Sainsbury’s / Asda: I feel so conflicted about buying clothes in supermarkets. It boils down to not having the choice or money to rule them out completely.

Sainsbury’s do a reasonable range of workout gear and I also bought my favourite Autumn dress here last year – I loved it so much I picked up a second when I saw it on sale. I used to buy jeans here but they reduced their size range this year (why?) so I either have to go down a couple of sizes or hope they don’t wear thin any time soon.

Asda do amazing linen trousers, they sell quickly but I grab a pair each year. I adore linen and just can’t resist it even if it doesn’t stand up to the rigours of plus size wear.

Simply Be: I really struggle to find simple Summer shoes but thankfully Simply Be do wide shoes and I’m on my third pair of these red canvas shoes. I also picked up the maxi skirt in the picture above. Sure, I have to wear it pulled up to my bra line but it’s my favourite skirt this season.

I recently went back to underwired bras after over seven years in maternity/nursing bras. I bought a pair of simple bras here as they have a good range of back sizes along with a sports bra for the gym.

We Love Colors: Colour is definitely good for my soul and when I found We Love Colors a few years ago I knew I’d struck gold. They make the full spectrum of colours in tights, fishnets and footless tights. I’m a big fan of their footless tights which I wear instead of leggings under dresses. What I love about them is they have such a huge range of plus size tights <– check them out.

If in doubt, accessorise: there is no doubt that you have more flexibility in what you add to an outfit. I’m a fan of perspex jewellery, Tatty Devine is a particular swoon-fest (oh for some of the RobRyan collection!). The butterfly necklace in the pictures above is form Ladybird Likes and came in my Blogtacular goody bag. I love my new glasses, I got them from MyOptique (although have since been disappointed by their customer service), and when you have to wear them all of the time I think it’s worth getting glasses right.


Plus Size Fashion and Personal Style

So I’m not shopping anywhere ground breaking I just work on selecting the pieces that really fit with my style. I wear everything until it has holes in (happens a lot) and track discounts so I don’t spend a fortune. I’m interested to know where you shop if you have trouble finding clothes you like too.

It does depress me that my choices are so limited. I know I should really be making my own clothes and boycotting the industry that rejects me and exploits others. And maybe one day I will but for now I trawl the internet looking for the clothes that suit my personality.


Kat Specs

What do you think?

(I know, I know, where from? They are Prada)