Comments on: Where there’s a will

By: SandyCalico

SandyCalico — Mon, 05 Apr 2010 20:40:32 +0000

Apologies for being horrendously late with my comment. I’m so sorry for your loss.
Thanks for the reminder about making a will. Hubby and I spoke about it today x

By: nixdminx

nixdminx — Fri, 02 Apr 2010 09:28:40 +0000

I’m glad you’ve written this because there are two children at my school who have lost a parent and I know two of my friends who lost their Mothers at a young age. There is a shroud of secrecy around the insecurity that parental loss at an early age brings and it sounds like you had a good plan b if it all went wrong.

By: Kitschy Coo

Kitschy Coo — Thu, 01 Apr 2010 17:46:41 +0000

What a difficult thing for you to go through at such a young age. Sending much love.

My brother and his wife asked us if we would raise their children if anything happened to them and what a monumental privilege it was to be asked. It prompted a discussion between S and I as to what would happen with our kids and unfortunately we just can’t agree. I’d want them to go to my family in the States but he’d want them with his family in Scotland. I’m not sure how we’ll come to an agreement but your post has reminded me we really should.

By: Kat

Kat — Thu, 01 Apr 2010 11:43:58 +0000

Thank you all for your heartfelt comments. xx

By: Andrea

Andrea — Wed, 31 Mar 2010 10:51:18 +0000

Thanks for sharing that. We’ve just written our will. What with four children between us and three different fathers (I know…but who knew!!!) it’s been a tough one to write.

By: zooarchaeologist

zooarchaeologist — Tue, 30 Mar 2010 19:04:14 +0000

A really beautifully written post. Thank you for sharing this. Funnily enough this is a topic me and Alex have been chatting about a lot recently. You have made me think about actually going ahead with our plans formally. I think you have made a very good choice x

By: BertieD

BertieD — Tue, 30 Mar 2010 17:37:48 +0000

Thanks for sharing a very personal story. You have a very real reason for making this arrangement for your children but it is something we should all think of.
Although S has guide-parents we have never really discussed where he would go if the worst was to happen. Our will remains in it’s packet not even started, where it has been for the last five years.
I think the choice of friends is a wise one as on many levels some of my friends are far more ‘like’ me than either of our families.
Hmm you’ve really got me thinking.

By: Abby

Abby — Tue, 30 Mar 2010 17:27:13 +0000

That’s so, so sad, a child in my son’s class lost her father last year & I can see how it has affected both her and her family. It is such a tough life changing event for anyone to go through, let alone a child. It must be very reassuring to know you have made arrangements for your own children, now you can just get on with life knowing you have a will etc in place and that they will be cherished and cared for should something happen.

We made a will when we bought our house and at that stage only had one child. We had put down SIL & BIL but I can now see that wouldn’t really work. We need to change our will but have put it off so we could tie it in with when we move. Mine & my husband’s families are very different and I do fear what could happen with the kids if anything was to happen to us both. You are lucky to have good friends that you would trust. We really don’t know who we would ask, taking on 3 kids is a bit commitement. I am hoping we can stay alive for another 8 years and then our oldest son could look after the others ;)

By: Alice

Alice — Tue, 30 Mar 2010 14:55:29 +0000

How moving. I am so sorry you experienced loss at such a young age.
With a baby on the way this is really the kind of thing I need to be considering.

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